Younger Women threatened by Older Women

I just had an incident the other night when I went out dancing that completely blew my mind. A young, gorgeous man kept asking me to dance. He's also a fabulous dancer, which is the main reason I dance with him. He is MUCH younger. He is friends with a woman who also goes out dancing and is also very young. She and I have developed a kind of "out dancing" friendship.

It was clear that she's friends with him, but I couldn't tell if there was anything more. But it was usually him that asked me to dance. Last week, he danced with me and then when he asked her to dance, she said "no." I have never seen her say no to anyone. It was clear at that point that something was going on.

Then, this past week, they were both there again and THEN it became clear that she was interested in him and he would not dance with me at all and was very unfriendly. She stayed by his side and watched him a lot. I saw him dance with other women, but he would not dance with me at all. It was like I was "forbidden." If he danced with me, then she would have nothing to do with him.

I couldn't figure this out and was, of course, feeling that I had done something wrong although I never came on to him, tried to talk to him or in any way indicated anything other than enjoying dancing with him. I was telling a friend about this and she said that to her, it was not that I was doing anything wrong, but that it was his response to me that made her uptight. I can't imagine that someone probably more than half my age, gorgeous, great dancer would in any way be threatened by me.

But I guess so! In a way, I'm very flattered and I am also hoping that this woman and I will continue our "out dancing" friendship. NO man is worth a friendship, and I had no designs on him. Just wanted to dance with a good dancer.

We'll see what happens next!